Romans 13

It’s been awhile since I posted anything here. It’s not that I don’t have anything to say, you know I do. It’s more that it hasn’t been a priority. I think it’s time to change my priorities.

The readings at Mass this week were full of visuals: lots of trees and seeds and birds. I like these kind of readings, I can put myself right there. But that’s not the way Fr. Darrell went. He went political, which he seldom does. But it seems as though a. Man with HUGE authority went Biblical and got it all wrong.

Romans 13

You know, you can grab a line out of the Bible and use it to say whatever you want. Personally, I think Jeff Sessions, the Attorney General of the United States, citing this passage is hogwash. The way I read what he has said is that God appointed those in authority. HOGWASH, I say! If that were the case, as Fr. Darrell pointed out, then abortion would never be legal. And if you go down just a little further past this passage in Romans 13, you will see that it says “You shall love your neighbor as yourself”.

So, let’s go there.

Jeff Sessions was born in Selma, Alabama in 1946. This would mean that he was involved in all of the civil rights turmoil that happened in Selma in the 60’s. He was named after his father and grandfather (as he is a III). So, he was named after Jefferson Davis, the President of the Confederate States of America and General Beauregard, the Confederate General who oversaw the bombardment of Fort Sumter, which started the Civil War. I’m just guessing here but I might wager that he was not all about civil rights back in Selma in the 60’s. I was just down there recently, saw quite a bit of what happened during the 60’s, never once heard his name mentioned. Never.

His family came over from England, maybe Scotland or Ireland. I guess back then we didn’t have closed borders.

Jeff Sessions has 3 children and at least 6 grandchildren. I wonder how he would feel if someone separated him, forcefully, from any member of his family? I wonder.

Oh, he’s a Sunday School Teacher.

I don’t advocate for open borders. But I will tell you this, as someone who is familiar with people from Mexico and other Latin countries, they are coming here for a better life. The poverty is extreme. Their lives in many ways are awful. They are looking for their children to have a better life than they have. I’m sure Mr. Sessions has worked his entire life to make sure his children’s lives are better than his. I know my parents did that. I know that I did that. How can we resent that?

But if the law says you have to deport them then don’t you dare take their children away from them. This hurts my heart and soul. How in the world can Mr. Sessions call himself a Christian, and a Sunday School Teacher, and, as a person of authority, allow that to happen? I cannot fathom anyone being okay with this. No one. Never.

Cynthia Elder


If I Want Your Opinion

We all have opinions don’t we? Some are better than others. We all try to second guess our government. I have caught myself, on numerous occasions, critiquing television commercials.   At every level sporting event we all turn into coaches. And we don’t mind voicing our opinions. Of course if ours is different than yours, we don’t want to hear it.

Can you imagine what it was like in Jesus’ day? I mean he travelled with twelve men. You know how men are. If there were twelve there then there were twelve different opinions. If women were travelling with them then they had their opinions too. They probably spoke most of those under their breath. I’m sure this happened a lot more than we hear about.
But in the Gospel this week we heard it more than once. Everyone had an opinion. The apostles tell Jesus that he doesn’t need to go back to Lazarus when they found out he was sick. Then when he died they tell him there was nothing more he could do. I’ll bet they grumbled all the way back to Judea. And then when he gets back Martha is telling him how she sees the situation and what he needs to do now. I especially like how she agrees with everything he says but doesn’t have a clue what he is talking about. If she hadn’t interrupted him with “Yes Lord, but . . . ” she might have been able to pick up on what the Lord was talking about. I wonder how often I do that. “Lord, I know you’ve got this but I’m going to worry about it a little more” or “Lord I know that you hear me but I’m going to . . . ”
Fr. Darrell asked us if we are believers during his sermon and then waited for our reply.   The church was silent.  Then he said “I guess not” and ended his sermon. I wanted to stand up and holler “Yes! I do believe!” But of course, that wouldn’t have been appropriate. If I didn’t agree with what he was saying I would have probably punched Jimmy in the belly and said something under my breath. Why would that have been appropriate? Of course, we could all tell Fr. Darrell what we think would be appropriate. That would probably go over about as good as the apostles telling Jesus what He should do.
I think we need to start a cheering section in the first few pews during Mass. I mean if we truly believe then we should cheer all through Mass.
So, a couple of things this week. I am going to continue to try to live the Gospel. Of course that does require reading the Gospel. If I ask the Lord to help me then I am going to accept His help. And if anyone asks me if I believe I’m going to shout it to the rooftops. I’ll leave the “hell yeah” out of it though.
Cynthia Elder

Who Is Your Child of Light?

Who is my child of light?

When I think about this question my immediate response is the baby Jesus.  We love the baby Jesus in our house, I think in most houses.  And no one can deny that child as a child of light.

But there are others.  I think of Elyse Carrico.  Elyse is the youngest daughter of Susan Mills Carrico.  No one can deny that child as a child of light.  A room lights up as she walks through the door.  I am sure that at times she can be a handful but because she makes you smile surely makes it all worth it.  And she will always be a child.  I think that is one of the reasons everyone falls in love with her the moment they meet her.


I think of Seth Karlson.  Seth is the youngest child of Matt and Deanna Karlson, the grandson of Donnie and Veronica Wilson.  He has Sanfilippo Syndrome which is non-curable.  This in itself is so scary and frustrating.  But Seth is so precious that it is only by some of his facial features that you even know that anything is wrong.  Of course, his parents know day in and day out because they live with it.  We don’t see it unless they come to visit from Texas or on Facebook.  But Seth will always remain a child.  God knew what he was doing though when he let Matt and Deanna have him.  Deanna is a wonderful nurse and Matt is one of the most loving men I have ever known.


There are some children of light in the movies.  I think a child like Shirley Temple or even Haley Joel Osment. When I watch a movie like “The Sixth Sense” I feel like he will forever be that young.  And just seeing him in that movie makes me smile.

And then there are the children, the babies who have gone before us and will forever be a child of light.  I remember two babies I conceived, but that did not make it to their birth.  I know, in my heart is where they are now and will be until I see them again.  But I remember my most precious granddaughter who lived in the womb longer than most and who got to go to heaven before she was born.  In my mind and in my heart, she will forever and ever be a child of light for she is lighting my path to heaven.

Cynthia Elder

Examination of Conscience

I remember the first time I ever went to Confession.  It was called Confession then.  It was one of the Sacraments of Initiation (I didn’t know that then) but it was right before I made my First Communion.  It was during the week, after Mass.  I went to a Catholic grade school and this was what we did, right before we made our First Communion.  I couldn’t wrap my arms around the fact that all the years I had lived, I mean I was 7 at this point, that none of those sins mattered before now because I didn’t know that they were sins.  That really didn’t make sense to me because I remember wholeheartedly that I knew some of the things that I had done were wrong, so how could they not have been sins last week but next week they would be sins.  I mean, I knew fighting with my sister or brother was wrong.  I got spankings for doing it.  I knew that saying bad words was wrong because I got my mouth washed out with soap.  So how could they not be sins, and then they were?  I was a rather stubborn child and I wanted to understand.  I found out later that being stubborn was a sin.  But I was scared to death sitting in that church pew waiting for my time to go into the confessional.  It would have been smart for the teacher to have let us go in there beforehand and explore because I was so intrigued with the kneeler that clicked the light on when I knelt down and clicked the light off when I got up.  That light told us that someone was in that confessional.  I really wanted to know how that worked.  Of course, our parish priest was a large man with a booming voice so we could all hear everything he was saying to our classmates.  That made us even more afraid.
I don’t think I ever got over my fear of the confessional.  Through the years we went to Confession at school.  I knew my mother went weekly or bi-weekly but she didn’t make us go with her unless we wanted to.  I wish I had done that more often.  But I think the Sacrament was so special to Mom that she appreciated being able to go by herself.  But all through school we went, first to Confession, then to Penance, then to Reconciliation.  They kept changing the name of the Sacrament I think to encourage more people to go.  Probably a lot of people were like me, and afraid to go, so renaming the Sacrament made it cool.  The Church was looking for cool back in the 1970’s.  When I was an adult it took the name of Reconciliation since that sort of went with the times.  I guess it doesn’t matter what you call it, as long as you do it.
Which takes me back to my fear of the confessional.  I remember a time in my life, when I wasn’t really that good of a person.  I mean, I wasn’t a bad person.  I didn’t kill anyone.  But I know that I was a Sinner with a capital S.  I knew that if I went to Confession that I would be forgiven of every sin I had committed, those with a capital S and those with a small s.  I knew that.  I believed that.  But I was afraid.  I was afraid of that priest.  I mean, it didn’t matter who the priest was, letting him know about my shortcomings and my wrongdoings was what I was afraid of.  I never wanted any other person to know some of that stuff.  And remember, I never killed anyone.  I might have wanted to, but I never did it.  Anyway, I made up my mind that I didn’t need confession.  I made up my mind that I would take my sins straight to the top.  I made up my mind that if God was going to forgive me he was going to forgive me whether I told a designated priest or not.  I believed that.  And I still do.  The problem was, I didn’t believe that.  Do I believe that God is all forgiving?  Yes, I know that to be true.  But I also was taught that unless I got that sin out of my conscience that I would continue to carry that sin with me and even though I believed that God would forgive me I don’t think that I ever forgave me.  And that’s a sin too.  So, I was in another town on business.  I was close to a Catholic church.  And I saw that they had daily confessions.  I don’t know what possessed me to go into that confessional other than the fact that I didn’t know that priest and he didn’t know me.  That poor man.  I unloaded everything I could and I asked for forgiveness.  Now these were some sins that I had already asked God to forgive me but it took that act to truly believe that I was forgiven of those sins, and I forgave myself for those sins.
I truly believe that once a semi-practicing Catholic has kids then they become this uber-practicing Catholic.  I like to think that it was my kids who forced me to become the Catholic Christian I am today.  And if you truly are an example to your kids, you’ve got to do it right.  So, I am no longer afraid of the confessional.  That doesn’t mean that I run the door down to church on Saturday afternoon to be absolved of all my sins.  I should.  I would probably be happier in my life.  I do make sure that I go to Confession.  I’m just not great at going all the time.  I remember when Communal Penance came out.  My whole family would go to church that night, including my dad.  Through the years it has been done differently but there was a time it was truly an event.  And it was easy.  You didn’t really have to think.  You just had to put that little catch-all phrase at the end, “and anything else that I may have done”.  I love that phrase.  Because I’m forgetful.  I could have a list a mile long and my turn would come along and by gosh I couldn’t remember one thing.  Okay, I could remember one thing.  But my list would leave my head.  So “and anything else that I may have done” always worked for me.  Until I started thinking about it.
We teach our kids the 10 Commandments.  And any and all sin that we commit can be identified by a good examination of conscience considering the 10 Commandments.  So, that’s what I have started to do.  What Commandment did I just break?  But being the forgetful person I am I have started listing these in my Notes on my IPhone.  Go ahead and laugh.  But it’s a good place to jot something down real quick.  Because by the time I get to the confessional I will have forgotten all about trash talking that girl at Walmart who cut in front of me in line.  I will have forgotten that grudge I was holding against those guys for what they said about me.
But I will tell you that I have discovered this great Catholic app that I use for a lot of things.  It’s called Laudate and it has Daily Readings and the Saint of the Day.  It has prayers and the rosary (in pod-cast form) and stations of the cross.  It even has Latin prayers.  But my most favorite part of the app right now is on Confession.  It has a section for children, young adults, single people, married people.  It has a daily examination of conscience.  Can you imagine on a daily basis figuring out what you did wrong so that tomorrow you don’t make the same mistake?  So when I am perusing this app I can find all kinds of things I need to think about.  When you click on a section, it gives you a little prayer to say before you proceed.  So cool.  In the section I go to there are subsections and they ask you questions:  Have I prayed every day?  Have I read the Bible?  Those are responsibilities to God.  Have I told my spouse that I love him?  Have I listened to my spouse?  Those are responsibilities to my my spouse.  Have I prayed for my children?  Have I been affectionate toward them?  Those are responsibilities to my children.  Have I avoided theft and lies?  Have I paid my taxes?  Those are responsibilities to society.  Is that not cool?  It could probably take an hour or so to go through all of them.  But isn’t that a good time frame to spend before going to Confession?  I mean, I’m all about it after it’s over.  I plan to become all about it before I go.
The Catholic Church is very specific in some things, and not the least specific in others.  I think even in Confession they are very specific but when it comes down to the nitty gritty they are not specific at all.  That’s why I think a good examination of conscience helps you to stay right with the Church but also right with yourself.  It’s good to take inventory every once in awhile.  Even if you don’t do anything with it, it’s good to know where you stand, in your own heart, in your own soul.  It’s nice to have something to work from to make it easier to participate in the Sacrament.  Don’t we owe that to ourselves?  I know that I do.
Cynthia Elder
St. Joseph Catholic Church in Louisville – where I made my first confession –

Extravagant Inheritance

prodigal-sonThe readings this weekend at Mass had to do with the story of the Prodigal Son. But Fr. Darrell’s take on the reading was more like the prodigal father.  And when he was talking this way he implied that the father in the story was the same as our Father in heaven.  That made me think.  He defined “prodigal” as “spending money or resources freely and recklessly; wasteful extravagant”.  That made me think.  And I think it was the point he was trying to make.  I took it that God, our Father, is immensely extravagant.  He’ll give us all that He has.  He only asks one thing of us, to follow Him.

But then I started thinking about inheritance. The prodigal son asked for his inheritance early.  I don’t think I could do that.  If you were to get your inheritance before you were entitled to it, to me, it’s like asking for the person who is “leaving” you something to leave.  Now, if I had a rich old aunt that I didn’t know about that was going to leave me a gazillion dollars, I might want a part of it right now.  But I think I know about all of my aunts and I can tell you that none of them are rich.  But if I did . . .

When my grandmother died, I inherited a small sewing rocker that I had bought for her. I had bought it at an antique store.  She had been with me and told me about her mother having one of those.  I was so proud that I was able to take my babysitting money and go back to that store and buy it for her.  When she died, her daughter, my aunt, gave it to me.  I treasured that little rocker.  I still have it although I wouldn’t recommend sitting in it.

This is not Grandma’s sewing rocker but it looks just like this one.  I inherited it after she died.


When my father died my mother inherited everything. We didn’t know there was anything to get.  About a year or so before my mother died she started giving everything away.  She put our names on everything.  What she didn’t divvy up, we did not long after she died.  We had all of the furniture to get rid of, just all kinds of things.  It seems strange to me now, but I ended up with quite a bit.  Through the years I have lost some of those precious items but other things I still have.  It’s a shame that I have allowed the memories of those items diminish.  Sometimes you just have to move on.  Every once in a while I note a table that Mom got from her aunt or a pair of earrings and I remember what Mom used to wear those earrings with.  They’re nothing special except I can still see her wearing them, some 30 years later.  I kept Mom’s Evan Picon red suit too.  It was a size 6.  It’s been awhile since I’ve been a size six.  I wanted to give it to my daughter one day.  If I had made up my mind that I wanted to do that then I should have taken better care of the suit because when I pulled it out for my daughter to wear it for senior pictures it had all kinds of moth holes in it.  Oh well, it still made me smile.  Just like my son wore my daddy’s suit coat for his senior pictures.  Again, moth holes; again, it didn’t matter.  He looked so much like my daddy in that jacket.

I inherited Daddy’s Love Story jacket.  It resembles the one that Ryan O’Neal wore in the movie from the 1970’s.


But if God promises us the kingdom of heaven, do I expect that I will go around putting my name on the bottom of items I want? I don’t think so.  You know, I’ve never wandered what I would do if I am lucky enough to make it to heaven.  I’ve never considered how my existence will be.  I just want to be there.  I just want to be welcomed in.  It doesn’t matter if the streets are lined with gold, I won’t care.  All I want is the streets to be lined with those who have gone before me.  I want to see my grandmothers again.  I want to sit down and analyze my life with my mom and dad.  I want to hold my precious granddaughter Lucy in my arms, for all eternity.  And I want to bask in the glow of the Father and His Son.

I know that God has been extravagant with me. I know that He has given me anything and everything that I need.  He might not always answer my prayers but He knows what’s good for me, and what’s not.  Now if only I could figure that out then I feel that I will be welcomed into His arms.  Because when it comes down to it, that’s all I could ever want.

Cynthia Elder


“No one can say ‘Jesus is Lord’, except by the Holy Spirit.”  1 Corinthians 12:3

On the first Pentecost a huge wind came upon the house where the apostles were hiding.  And then, tongues of fire came to rest on each one of them.  And then they left the house and everyone who heard them understood them.  I always took it that the apostles were speaking in all languages but it was the people who were able to understand everything that they said.  Wow.

Catholics believe that when we are confirmed that the Holy Spirit comes into us.  At that time then we become a “soldier of Christ”.  I learned that when I was confirmed in the 3rd grade.  I may not have always practiced that but I have always believed it.

Through the years though I know that the Holy Spirit has been alive in me.  I can feel it when He descends upon me.  I can feel it right before I serve as Lector during Mass.  I can feel it when I watch my children practice their faith.  I can feel it when I attempt to influence others in my faith.  I can feel it.  And it’s not just a feeling.  It’s physical.  In other situations I would consider it to be butterflies.  But when I am professing my faith those butterflies take on a whole new meaning.

Right now I feel those butterflies in my arms, not telling me what to write but encouraging me to write.  Writing is pretty scary.  I can understand how scared those apostles had to be.  They saw what happened to Jesus.  And yet they were told by Jesus that they had to go out, put themselves out there, to teach about Him.  I’m sure they were sitting there going, “yeah, right”.  I can remember when I made up my mind to do what God asked me to do.  It was only then that He made me write.  Writing is one thing, letting someone read it is something completely different.  But when He had me to write, He also put people in front of me that I could ask to read my writing.  I remember my son, who is a writer, and a teacher, proofread my writing.  I had to go back to him and tell him I wasn’t looking for an editor, I was looking for his opinion.  I let others read what I had to write and most didn’t comment at all.  That was good for me.  A no comment meant to me that they didn’t hate it.  Subsequently I have gotten good comments out of those people.  But those silent opinions made me realize that maybe I could write, maybe I did have something to say.  And so I have decided that it is my writing that the Holy Spirit wants to see out of me.

He wants different things out of different people.  In that 1 Corinthians reading this week at Mass it goes onto say “As a body is on though it has many parts, and all the parts of the body, though many, are one body, so also Christ.”  In order to accomplish all that we need to do for Christ we must all take our talents and put them out there.  I claim a “hand” in that body.  You’ve got to have a “hand” to write.  I could see my youngest son saying “I get the mouth”.  He’s not much of a writer but he has a lot to say so give that boy a microphone.

I have always liked the image of the tongues of fire.  I took a picture years ago of a confirmation class at Youth 2000.  We had all the kids lined up with the monks who put on the retreat.  You can see orbs in that picture, over some of the kids’ heads.  I thought that was so interesting.  If that doesn’t make you believe I don’t know what would.  Honestly, when I dug out that picture I thought there were more.  It’s still pretty cool.


What’s more important is that we do have the Holy Spirit in our lives.  He’s there, whether we feel Him or not.  Sometimes life will squash him down but He’s still there and given the right opportunity He will make His presence known.  We just have to be open to listening to Him.

Cynthia Elder


An Easter Wake-Up Call

Days after holidays are my favorite Facebook days!
Never get to go to church on Sundays
Because of my work schedule
Got to go to church 4 times last week
It was awesome and did me ALOT of good
Best part was I managed to stay awake
And go to Easter Sunday mass yesterday (early mass)
I was sitting in the back pew
Drifting off just a little when SUDDENLY…..
I was startled by a cold gush of many holy water sprinkles
Splash me from behind and run down my neck
I had not seen Father leave the altar
With that big bucket of ice cold Easter water
Needless to say, Father Darrell took much enjoyment
When he returned to the altar after generously “blessing” us all
It was then that he simply, but proudly confessed…

“THAT…is one of my favorite things I get to do as a priest!”

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